If you’re constantly ‘surrounded by idiots’ - read this.
Certain behaviours in others (and in ourselves when we learn to recognise them) can really grind our gears.
We all know someone who (or again, maybe we do this ourselves) interrupts us mid-sentence or doesn’t understand the concept of personal space. And let’s not forget those who have loud phone conversations right next to us on the tram explaining their dogs bowel movements in great detail, are consistently late to plans, never speak up for themselves, or, on the other hand, constantly brag about their achievements.
It’s easy to think, “God, they’re an idiot.”
But are they?
In my field of work, I know that that every behaviour has a reason behind it. And, when we take the time to understand these reasons, people can seem less 'idiotic,' and then we can focus on fostering greater empathy, understanding, connection, and collaboration in our interactions with others.
To deepen my understanding of this on a general human level, and because I’m a knowledge nerd, I’m currently reading "Surrounded by Idiots" by Thomas Erikson, which explores human behaviours and personality types.
To keep it simple, the book categorises people into four distinct personality types (represented by colours) and traits associated with those colours. People are not often just ‘one’ of these colours. You can also be a mix of all 4 of them, with certain colours being stronger than others. For example:
Red (Dominant)
Individuals with red traits are assertive, competitive, and results-oriented, often recognised as strong leaders who are both decisive and goal-driven. They excel at taking charge and making quick decisions, and their confidence can inspire others, effectively driving projects forward. However, their focus on results may lead them to be perceived as aggressive or insensitive, as they often prioritise outcomes over relationships. Additionally, their direct communication style can sometimes come across as bluntness, which may affect how they are received by others.
Yellow (Influencial)
Individuals with yellow traits are charismatic, enthusiastic, and sociable, often considered the ‘life of the party’ who thrive on interaction and creativity. They excel in communication, possessing the ability to motivate and inspire others, and their inherent optimism fosters a positive atmosphere. However, they may struggle with organisation and follow-through, which can lead to perceptions of being scattered or unrealistic. Additionally, their strong need for approval can make them sensitive to criticism.
Green (Steady)
Individuals with green traits are calm, patient, and supportive, valuing harmony and excelling in team settings where they often take on the role of mediators. They are great listeners who build strong, trusting relationships, and their reliability and consistency make them invaluable team members. However, they may resist change and avoid conflict, which can lead to stagnation. Additionally, their accommodating nature can sometimes cause them to neglect their own needs.
Blue (Compliant)
Individuals with blue traits are analytical, detail-oriented, and methodical, placing a high priority on accuracy and quality, which allows them to excel in tasks requiring precision. They are thorough in their work and possess strong problem-solving skills, with a focus on data and facts that often leads to well-informed decisions. However, they may be perceived as overly critical or perfectionistic, which can stifle creativity. Additionally, their cautious nature may make them resistant to taking risks.
Here’s a visual to also help explain the traits and colours.
“Thinking about these what do you see in yourself?”
Now, long before I studied human behaviour or understood different personality types (I’m taking you back over a decade now) I often felt 'surrounded by idiots.' I would rant and rave to my Psychologist:
“Why can't people at the supermarket checkout organise their damn bankcard to pay while their shopping is being scanned?
They stand there for 15 minutes watching it… beep, beep, beep, and when it’s all done they’re asked to pay it’s like it’s their first time on Earth!? Then they go to grab their card out of their bag or wallet… Dude, you literally had all that time. LET’S GOOOOO.”
Judge me if you like. We’ve all been there.
But these days I take a huge step back before going into rant-land, and get into a huff over not much at all. These days I will watch people and think:
“Hey they might be stressed or maybe just moved to the area and are feeling a bit disorientated?
Maybe they’re wondering if they even have enough money to pay for this?’
Maybe their memory isn’t what it used to be?
Maybe they’re thinking of a date they had last night that went really well and they’re all loved up?”
I mean, seriously, I have no data from just one interaction with someone to call them an ‘idiot’ for being slow in the payment of their groceries.
And really I shouldn’t call them an ‘idiot’ at all.
And if I take the colours above into consideration I wonder if they may also be a mix of Green and Blue personality traits. Which could also explain this behaviour in this particular moment.
Make sense?
In quick conclusion because it’s such a deep and wonderful topic to talk about, just read the book if you think you’re ‘surrounded by idiots.’
I ended up just feeling like one myself for being so judgemental in my past life.
So I guess we all can be ‘idiots’ sometimes. But hey, least I learned something about myself, and others.
And that’s why I love my job.
When you better understand personality types you can better understand the behaviours and in turn - you better understand the person.
Note: This is a very top level, light hearted piece written for enjoyment. Of course there are indeed levels of foolish and unwise behaviour. But the book goes into that. I’ll leave it to Thomas and your wonderful wise self to explore more.